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Your child he trust him?

important question ... if not essential!

As Marcel Rufo said in his book "Brothers and sisters, a love sickness" - Editions Fayard - "it is self-confidence that allows a successful life: it is necessary to love oneself in order to be liked by others, all those who cross our path one day. Assist the child in building his self-image is crucial: a child who lacks confidence in himself is vulnerable, and he feels attacked by a brother, sister, parents too stimulating, friends, teachers ... doubt it everything, including the love of his parents. "

"It does not shine in the eyes of others only if it is self-confident can shine. "

* This confidence will be the big day from the 1st back to kindergarten ... your role: helping your child what he is facing difficult rather than force him into things easy;

then to CP entry : its adaptation will be conditioned by this confidence, he must be prepared to accept the constraints, the requirements needed to access learning.

** Watch for these signs of lack of confidence ....

-your child is able to separate from you but manifest grave anxiety upon departure and must live this phase separation-individuation to acquire the feeling of freedom, autonomy, pleasure and discovery and express its rivalries, its confusions, fears.

it has negative words against him, he decries: "I'm hopeless .. " And do not let him retreat into the idea: it should feel hard to face the future, as soon as possible to help him overcome obstacles, do not manifest contempt or disrespect or mockery to him.

he is afraid of being judged by others.

- he's afraid of the unusual: he hides, he cries ...

He cries at the difficulties, he can not find a solution.

- he waits for help from someone.

- your child is "too wise", he lacks attention, concentration, he says little ...

- He is lonely, the "scapegoat" for others.

PARENTS, then ask yourself about your own behavior! your role is essential!

** Be Example: Have yourself a satisfactory picture, have ; confidence in you as an individual and as a parent: ask clearly your authority, be reassuring for parents, open to the world be calm parents living in the here and now "(the future and the future anxiety guilt). # " That way you give, it will - that way you love, love it - that way you confident he will be confident .

** trust your child , do not put pressure, acknowledge its success and help him understand failures # " not succeed is not a failure, it is a learning " respect his authenticity: fashion do not suit your desires, your hobbies, your hopes dashed, accept that it is different from you, accept it away to live his own experiences.

** towards independence: he must understand that one believes in his abilities, let him be, let confront the difficulties , Solve his own problems; take her tasks; let them choose their relationships while remaining vigilant. # " Your role is not to spare him the difficulties but to help one overcome obstacles .

* * which - unlike the signs and behaviors that reveal the autonomy and self-confidence your child?

- He has a secret (eg not wanting to tell everything that happens at school), he has a "secret garden" that you must follow ...

he was cornering him.

he shows no precipitation at the time of reunion, thus showing that he did so relied on himself to live well and that his loneliness was able to live without you.

- he can play alone, take care alone.

- he confronts the challenges positively, knowing look and find solutions.

- Your child is gay, laughing, participating, active, and it does not search systematically the agreement, notice, approval of others ....

EDUCATION OF A CHILD IS NOT "AN Long Quiet River ": PARENTS CAN NOT COMPLETE THEIR JOB WITHOUT ANGUISH WITHOUT FEAR OR WRONG TO IMPOSE THE CHILD OF SUFFERING TOO.

EDUCATION HAS REACHED ITS GOAL WHEN THE DAY CAME THE CHILD'S HAND WITHOUT ANGUISH FOR ADDRESSING POWER OF HIS LIFE MAN OR WOMAN.

Dolto ADVISOR AND TALK TO YOUR CHILD: "sort YOURSELF WITH LIFE. I DO WHAT I CAN TO ENSURE THAT YOU STAY HAPPY, BUT IT IS STILL DUE TO ME IF IT DOES NOT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY IF YOU ARE SICK.
LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS AS WE WISH. you make it IF YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE TAKE THE GOOD SIDE. "

PARENTS, BE CONFIDENT!

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