* Fix for children, for parents nervousness ... STOP!
Homework is a major source of conflict in families! and yet, to convince children the need to do their homework, it is essential that parents themselves are convinced ...
**** what is the point of homework?
* important link between school and parents ... in this way, parents interested in school life of their child, learning, to its difficulties, its successes ... discover their child "school" sometimes different from the child "at home"!
* helpful ... parents to create the child's motivation, cultivating his taste for effort, taking into account its difficulties, its shortcomings, its ... skills and build confidence.
* at the age of 6 years, the 1st homework - synonymous with "grow" - allow the child to show his abilities, he is able to and they are a factor in learning how to handle his work to teach the child manage their homework from the beginning is a real life skills and builds self-confidence;. this support is essential.
ORGANIZING @ SO HOW?
° Each evening, to learn lessons + homework ... when and how to get started? follow the advice of Brigitte Prot - motivator and a member of ACME (Action Association for Communication and Motivation in Education and Teaching).
1.imposer a break after returning from school : before age 13, 3 / 4 of an hour at least, are necessary for the child to life transition and exit completely to the school world into the realm of domestic life: snacks, games, sports, various activities and discussions. It is difficult for him to see new things if the host by saying "so what did you do at school?"
the golden rule: Install a ritual duties of the evening with time , Same place and time every day .. "this structure promotes rigorous learning"
2. duration: no rule that depends on the child's pace and amount of homework : working hours between 6 and 12 great years: 1 / 2 hours continuously, beyond the child can not focus effectively. .. but between 6 and 10 years, he needs a short break especially if it is creative and dreamy: 3 min breaks during which you can offer a creative activity (drawing, puzzle Lego ...) that begins before school duties, will continue during breaks and ends when the job is finished. This activity will not break the quiet required by the duties and to link the creativity at work, the break between these two worlds is one of the causes of demotivation among dreamers.
3. some more fun ideas : + fun read ... eg. save it for reading and listening (awareness interesting) + do a reading at 2 votes (different characters) + Offer to take the place of the master and do a reading aloud to the class + let it install in the position he wants to write * having fun .. by ex.demandez to child to draw the words he must learn - how the outline of letters with the pen tip - * write the words on labels for classifying , form sentences, cut out the words, rebuild, create other * think the table very useful! # Load and multiplication table. .. eg. record them singing, voice changing, use the software and websites / think educational games .
@ SHOULD BE THIS?
* YES because the adult is the guarantor of the organization (it takes years for a child to be able to manage its schedule) because only in front of his notebooks, he may dwell on an exercise and lack of concentration to another, again, the child requires that his work is validated by a look of adult he has confidence and he knows he is there to support him and congratulate him ... an accompanying adult who secures and nurtures trust. If this is not possible, take the time you return to check what he has done alone. Being present is to show your interest in your child's school work.
@ FAR HELP?
* Intervene without impeding its autonomy .... watch it all the homework, the list of required exercises, the help them get started in establishing a schedule of work and then go about your business, stating you're there if he needs help, and always check the work . "You must keep in mind that this is an accompaniment to a total self-reliance of the child"
* the primary key : do not bring the answer to problems and teach your child to ask the right questions to advance his argument and reply only. In the short term, this approach gives him the satisfaction of seeing him that he possesses the means to solve all problems ... Hence autonomy, working method, confidence.
@ WHAT ROLE VIS-À VIS THE TEACHER?
* 2 attitudes harmful to the child's progress:
- parents who feel useless homework or too heavy (= negate the capacities of the child and discourage its learning efforts)
- Parents still require and add more exercises! (= impose excessive pressure and promote a rejection of Labour)
best *: ° meet regularly with teachers · discuss with them a homework .. ask their advice on how to help your child learn a poem or revise a control because it does not happen spontaneously!
* respect for the role of each is essential . .. never criticize the teacher before the child repeat a lesson in place of the teacher
explain that we know a more effective method causes a conflict of loyalties which puts the child in trouble!
@ SHOULD ADD THE YEARS?
* offer 1 or 2 additional exercises may be useful for making sure your child understands the lesson but explain it to him "Have you seen this problem asked you exercise, you will still make one for you to be sure whether you manage when you're alone in the classroom" ... reinsurance trust.
@ HOW TO MANAGE A CRISIS?
* the goodwill of both sides is not enough and sometimes stage duties turns into a crisis! in this case, "said B. Prot " close notebooks and move on ... providing you put it back later" ... as may strive to make this ritual of the ritual duties of tension "between you and your children she said, the emotional stakes are such that they do not always allow everyone to take adequate clearance to celebrate this relationship. You might be tempted to revive your own schooling through that of your school and give it the risk of feeling guilty and losing its case at the idea of disappointing you! "The solution can also be handing over to the other parent or another adult family member or a student.
@ WHEN RELEASING THE BRIDE?
* The taking of autonomy in school work varies from one child to another ... you get to be attentive to the rhythm of your child avoiding to compare it to his brothers and sisters and comrades.
* you can give him more independence in its work by gradually reducing the duties of an audit once every 2 then 1 day every 3 or 4 days, especially teach your child to ask the right questions to advance his argument and to answer only: it is necessary for them to acquire a working method.
but your presence Your eyes remain on the final work necessary until the age of about 13 years; observation: stage completed usually at the end of the fifth where there is awareness of school issues and acquisition of full independence. It may be that 'at this age, the child rebels against the duties, then it is to establish another form of support = group work, supported by another parent or a big one.
* should never resign from your role always attentive to the school life your child.
@ AND TUTORING?
* More and more parents are perfectionists or stressed anticipate the difficulties of their children and use a tutor: this case can be considered only if gaps were identified by the teacher or the child may find it destabilized: it will feel that you care, you do not trust him. ... Only real needs justify the use : in talk with him, so he knows this is not a punishment but support for it to be more comfortable in the classroom and limit those extra lessons in time (eg a quarter.)
@ NOTICE OF COPPER BEATRICE - ROYER - PSYCHOLOGIST:
DO NOT Upvesting YOUR CHILD!
homework * why do they put some parents in a real state of anxiety? ° First it is to distinguish the involvement 2 parents: it is often the mother who takes care of homework! for a mother to successfully work their child is to be a "good mother" ... if it feels "bad mother" and the father has more distance ° there is need to understand the changing relationship parent-child created by the entrance to the school that will offer the first look out over the child, eyes that can dent the image that the parents were of him and especially of themselves, those who have over-invested realize that their child is not the perfect child they had dreamed of! ... Especially since this entry to school brings us back to our own history!
* to return to the mother, her work with children can cause feelings of anger especially violent because it is returned to his own story, if it was a brilliant student, he is incomprehensible and frightening to be confronted with a child who barely, if his school was bad, she saw her painfully but in all cases there is anxiety.
* what consequences for the child?
,-when it goes wrong, he can hear the terrible words, which, even if you regret having voted, have the weight: the child has the feeling of displeasing the parents, he loses his confidence and self esteem = unbearable!
- when homework is made in pain, the child does not gain autonomy, it is still immature and can not find any meaning to schoolwork.
* way out of this situation?
- to explain Child: "I get angry because it reminds me of bad memories, we will find a person relay" ... it's the perfect time to reflect on one's place in the family on the relationship between parents and children, on the look that you wear on them
* What is the role of the father?
- it must have a soothing voice, be that which separates, defuses the crisis and puts everyone in his place.
* what advice to parents?
1.ne not overinvest child: over-investment - a phenomenon that is growing - leading to huge disappointments: the child will live glorified hard test of reality.
2. not to blackmail the future : for a young child, about the tray and unemployment makes no sense! he will think one thing my parents did not trust me!
3.ne not lose sight of making the child as independent as possible : it passes by pleasure. a child who works with pleasure is the sense of what he did.
@ IN CONCLUSION:
* Parents, your attitude is critical to the success of this activity : put you provided!
* accept your child as it is with its difficulties, its shortcomings, its powers without getting angry Without scolding him. Your role is to assist, accompany, encourage, work on trust, not to put pressure on him or the bar too high.
* Praise him for his achievements, sustain the shortcomings, do not punish for a simple mistake, rather show him what she can teach.
* failing grades, difficulty understanding? especially not with humiliation, alleviate guilt, punishment ... or excessive solidarity: this is very insecure! your child needs help and support, you are his engine!
@ USEFUL BOOKS:
* FOR CHILDREN: Max and Lili did not do their homework - Dominique de ST MARS-Serge Bloch - ed. Calligram
* FOR PARENTS: Homework - Patrick Rayou - ed.presses university.
I'm not motivated, I'm not on purpose - Brigitte Prot - ed. albin michel
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