Asleeping difficult, delayed, frequent waking during the night, hard in the morning, restless sleep, fear, nightmares. .. HERE IS INFORMATION ON THE SLEEP OF THE CHILD!
* GOOD SLEEP HYGIENE IS ESSENTIAL FOR SUCCESSFUL DEVELOPMENT .
@ FIND THAT THE SPECIALISTS ?
* there is a real deficit in chronic 3 / 4 children (under 10 hours of sleep needed) d where:
- rude awakening
- problems with concentration, attention
- performance degradations
- fatigue, irritability
- hyperactivity ....
* 3 months, 7% of babies have already received a tranquilizer or a sedative! ; To 9 months, 16% regularly consume painkillers! While France is leading Europe to the prescription of tranquilizers or neuroleptics for babies! (Eg cough syrups for calming and sleeping pills!) WARNING! These drugs are potent modifiers of the central nervous system has a fundamental phase of the development of intelligence and personality, they are generating a heavy, deep sleep where dreams do not exist! gold DREAMS ARE NEEDED FOR GROWING : (learn in 2nd page of the blog, THE DREAM LULLABY TO ANNE SYLVESTER): they help to differentiate between the real and imaginary fears of the night helping to support those of the day! (enter the dreams of colors Kayak - emptied o on the 2nd page of the blog!)
@ THE CAUSES OF THE DEFICIT?
* Working hours of parents often force children to get up early.
* increasingly, it is "likely" to involve children in adult out!
* Some parents are very lax about the hours of sunset and sunrise ...
- Hence two principles for a good education in sleep
1 . recover the sleep time (weekends, holidays, nap in the morning when parents are on leave).
2 . establish a rhythm ; follow regular schedules of sleep and get up (to ascertain the biological rhythm that regulates the entire machine - body of the child from conception).
@ WHAT IS A NIGHT?
* 3-5 sleep cycles, a cycle lasting about 90 minutes.
- a phase of slow, deep sleep, during which the pituitary gland secretes growth hormone famous also useful for the repair tissues and cells.
- followed by a phase of REM sleep, a period of dreams, nightmares and retention of information acquired during the day .
"When we sleep, we grow
in his body
, and also in his head "
.... it is very important to the explain to your child one day will surely not you ask "but why you should always go to sleep?" (answers as in "Book of Why" ed. Martiniere the youth.)
@ TO TURN UP A GOOD EDUCATION TO SLEEP, THE PR JOUVET - French sleep expert recognized worldwide - delivers essential knowledge .. .
° leaves a very young child
; ; sleep all he wants
° respecting the child's sleep .
° a newborn sleeps 19 hours per day the 1st week. His body produces maximum growth hormone to improve his brain maturation and develop his body. NEVER WAKE ! Phases of disturbed sleep are very normal, waking at night crying is often a sign of hunger.
° to 2 months, episode of the night crying baby = literally "packed" his system arousal and does not know to stop, do not try to console him, but fall asleep at the faster or let it die down only (supporting her cries of protest !)
to 4 - 5 months , sleeps 8-9 consecutive hours ; DO NOT WAKE .... there is no reason to interrupt him in his dreams is his balance is at stake and your future nights! ; Help him distinguish between day and night = sleep to daylight the day and close the shutters when it gets dark . the ritual is very important, it will mark thus preparing the child to sleep (dressing, bath, pajamas, blanket, music .... smooth and quiet). Expressing some anxiety at this age as much in demand by parents, the child has frequent awakenings (shouts, grunts ...) but it has the ability to sleep alone, do not yield, do not take it in your room or in your bed: a serene firmness is desirable, the key is to keep! If he cries, talk - without moving him or behind the door or near the bed but do not take it in your arms. If you find that your baby sleeps well in your presence or if the world around him, it means he is not ready to sleep alone in a room, install rather his bassinet in your room or cons mother's bed, not too early isolation.
° to 1 year The child, who is about to acquire new motor skills, has difficulty sleeping at night, if possible, one hour before bedtime , prefer the calm (en - intrauterine memories, quiet dinner, back massage, rocking rather left that brings security, homeopathy, herbal medicine, music therapy ....)
; * keep it simple: comfortable bed, Lover not hinder movement, ideal room in the heart of the house (see discussion on "room feng shui" in the archives of the blog-October 2009) - Floor insécurisent and hallway! ambient noise is reassuring then that silence is synonymous with anguish, loneliness and abandonment; sleep ritual intended to ward off the anxiety is very high (hand on the arm, thumb, little song, history, hugs, love ...)
° to 2 years, the child - full of personality development - needs to oppose: NOT systematic sleep becomes synonymous with separation: going to bed is separate from adults and friends, hence the desire of the child to delay the time or make it last: Applications wacky confused with the real needs . NOT ASSIGN = cut him the rug out from under him to meet a number of 'needs before it is installed in the bed ... it will be a ritual to protect themselves left alone. CAUTION the child is very sensitive to anything that disturbs its rhythm of life stress, family atmosphere, which left the parents ... it needs to be reassured, comforted.
° to 2 -3 years ... nightmares are common.
° to 6-7years , the child is beset by fears of all kinds (Fear of the dark, robbers, witches, fear going to sleep ...) and he took refuge in their parents' bed! DO NOT LEAVE IT BE!
- The confusion of spaces will lead to a confusion of roles when the child needs order, landmarks, boundaries.
TAKE THE HABIT OF SLEEP IN THE BED DOES MARRIAGE TO NO CHILD TO DEVELOP AND SELF HARMONIOUSLY.
- bring him back in bed (never too late to enact prohibitions and set limits) even if a parent is absent exceptional or particularly if the parents are separated "I'm not there, but nobody can replace me."
- each in its place!
to 3 years the child excited, worried that excessive stimulation in the field of language and cleanliness - he's afraid of wetting his bed and struggle to stay awake - slips into bed with parents, which is a clear manifestation of the Oedipus complex : it seeks to settle BETWEEN parents ... to oust his rival!
- Be clear the incest taboo . " IS PROHIBITED BY LAW TO MARRY WITH HER PARENTS! Life is like a long journey that we would do in a train. For it goes well, you need a place to itself a definite place that nobody has the right to take you. His place in life, it is known in knowing how you stand compared to other members of his family ... we are the son or daughter of his father and mother, son or grandchild - daughter of his grandparents ... everyone has a place and ... so only a small boy can not marry his mother and a daughter with his dad ... and you can not take the place of someone else! " : here are clear and precise explanations that advises Claude Halmos - psychoanalyst -
- hold good, do not accept this situation, help - the sooner to gain independence supreme = sleep alone in bed!
- escort - it in his room, explaining that if mom and dad sleep together because they are married and may find that you do not sleep with your own parents !
- do not agree either that the child falls asleep anywhere ... to avoid sleeping alone in his room, he must accept the separation and get used to sleep in her room
- not to "bed - punishment" : "since you're not wise, go to bed!". ... it gives a negative image of sleep!
to 6 years , the sleep deficit is revealed to the PC! according to the rules of chronobiology, the child is available for learning at specific times. The ideal day: 9 h 30 to 16 h break 11h30 - 14h; school week including Wednesday. Fatigue Factors influencing sleep = school, the winter season .... causes fatigue, depression and seasonal demands sleep longer .... and of course the time changes!
@ HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE SLEEP DISORDERS?
- fairly frequent and disruptive to the parental couple and family balance .. they often involve fathers.
- Do not confuse natural with restless sleep and insomnia and sleep disorders.
° insomnia can be installed during the arousal phase of the 2nd at 3 months and often reveal anxiety or conflict. The role of the mother's emotional state is crucial in the sense of security of the child. The baby should also learn to endure the frustration that will help it grow , That is to say handle discrepancies between his need and satisfaction of this need.
° insomnia in children aged 2 to 6 occur when falling asleep or during night. In general, it is hyperactive night and day (psychomotor or language) or anxious children, anxious, poor parent-child relationship or physical trauma or psychological harm experienced ( hospitalization, separation Non-compliance of biological rhythms, family problems ....) . ESSENTIAL TO ESTABLISHING THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MENTAL AND PHYSICAL (DIALOGUE PLEASE ... SOMETIMES NEED THERAPY).
° the sleepwalking may occur in boys aged 7 to 12 children in particular ... walks in sleep, the escort in bed without speaking to him. It disappears naturally at puberty. Do not worry if These are rare events (this is not a disease) and it is often associated with talking in his sleep and night terrors.
° the night terror often occurs in children aged 3 to 6, normal during this period oedipal. It is a valve that releases excess tension after a hard day at the great learning. It occurs early in the night phase of slow wave sleep and deep. It presents the physical manifestations of Fear (accelerated heartbeat, sweating, nausea, shortness of breath, panic behavior, look terrified, screaming ... but the child is asleep, he does not know where he is, he does not recognize you can not remember nothing, nothing can explain). Do not wake up even if his condition impresses you and useless to talk about the next day. In general, this is an expression of excessive anxiety due to the rhythms of sunrise and sunset irregular sleep deprivation, sensitive periods, difficult. LEARNING TO PUT WORDS ON THE DIFFICULTIES, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE often solves THE PROBLEM.
° the nightmare is common 3 to 6 years of age ... language, development of the imagination. It comes at the end of the night in REM sleep. The child grows screaming, he calls, he wakes up, he has clear memories of what was scared and he has pictures, a story to tell. This is not a disease: the nightmare is normal, necessary for the child he serves to remove the tensions aroused by the excitement of the day, learning and banned the ambivalent feelings he could feel (hate, love, obey, disobey). The nightmare is related to the experiences, events, great emotions, great experiences, this mental activity at night is crucial to psychological development of children. (See video of kayaking on the second page of the blog)
* how to react?
* immediate need to be reassured and comforted (fear of sleep). No scold him, do not punish: "I'm here, do not worry, you're not in danger, you can get back to sleep."
* Let him tell but do not question.
* do not install it in your bed if not nightmare = danger!
share * But do not worry .... but - if you have recurring nightmares associated with conduct disorder (poor appetite, sadness, agitation ...)
* child needs to get rid of it = recounts his nightmare would be the issue or draw (it's part of the bedtime ritual). * few tricks = install above his bed trap dreams as among the Indians! , Tame the witch, dragon, monster, lock up tapes, scary books, watch the child to ward off his fear, scold or make disappear the toys scary dreams offer replacement and not "programmed" her nightmares.
@ BEDROOM AND DISORDERS?
* Around 3 years, the child does not go to bed, he does not sleep, he also wants to sleep in her room because .... is the age where he is assailed pa r the FEARS (black, darkness, fear commonplace in children, fear also supposed dangers hidden in the room - noises, shadows things) ... the child one is anxious, he has nobody to protect him. "Why I'm afraid in the dark?" Responses in "the book of why!" ed. La Martiniere for youth.
* 2 tips:
- take some simple provisions : nightlight, firefly, door ajar on corridor lit, cozy comforter and protector, flashlight ...
- "tame" night: watching the night with your child identify familiar objects in her room after dark, the bring together a walk at night in the house ... and the fears will disappear over the months, including the fear of sleep, not being able to wake up, and fear of dreams and nightmares .... Telling your child about his fears, talk to your child's fears, reassure, and especially do not make fun of him are very beneficial attitudes.
@ SO HOW TO ESTABLISH A GOOD SLEEP HYGIENE?
° Replies JOUVET OF PR = 4 REQUIREMENTS TO SLEEP IN PEACE:
1. create a calm environment : any more excitement around him at least 1 hour before bedtime.
; ; * NO on tv in the room, radio, computer and video games ...
* avoid the practice of physical activity or exciting games on the contrary, bath + quiet dinner, massage, rocking, meditation, quiet atmosphere, quiet games, hugs, story ...
2. create a safe environment :
* Location of the room (see the discussion on "arrange a room feng shui" - weblog archives October 2009) = close to familiar sounds reassuring attention to agonize ... corridors and calls for "live" to make them secure ... with drawings and objects. ideal situation: the heart of the apartment; need for rituals to sleep and sleepiness (history, early music, hugs, kisses, cuddly, 5 minutes of silence hand in hand ....)
3. avoid any disruption : pain, hunger, thirst, cold, hot, no clothes hamper movements ...
4. meet regular bedtimes for not disrupting the child's biological rhythm ; well for signs of sleep expressed by the body and bring awareness to the child: "it's time for bed!" think as a gentle wake-up provides a good sleep!
@ SO IN CONCLUSION?
* put in place as soon as possible true education is essential for sleep.
* be careful the behavior of his child can identify his report to Sleep (deficit or not).
* if despite this, sleep problems exist there is need to consider the temporary difficulties that your child may meet on the stage of development, on your own behavior, knowing that the child is "a sponge"! ONLY YOU PARENTS KNOW YOUR FAMILY HISTORY AND THAT OF YOUR CHILD FROM HER ... THINK DESIGN EVENTS IN PREGNANCY, IN unspoken family secrets (from generation to generation) ... WHICH HAVE "PRINT" THE CHILD AND CAN SPEAK WELL IN THE SLEEP .. . WITNESSES IN THE TRUE STORY OF "THE LITTLE GIRL WHO DID NOT SLEEP" 1ST ... MY LITTLE RED BOOK THAT I HAVE THE PLEASURE TO ANNOUNCE THE NEW EDITION! (order form on this blog-right column - or framboise.editions @ orange.fr ) think the books are excellent media for communication between parents and children .. . "Words rather than evil"
* Also think alternative medicine: Chinese medicine, homeopathy, osteopathy, fasciatherapy ....
@ SOME REFERENCES BOOKS:
- to What our children dream? - ed. Odile Jacob
- The child and his sleep - ed.robert laffont
to read with children * : Book of why - ed. La Martiniere for youth.
to read with children * : Book of why - ed. La Martiniere for youth.
- stories of school recreation :
Bedtime + max, + it's time to sleep + the bear family and the little night music, + it is a nightmare in the attic, + he is a black rabbit; What + a- there beneath the bed, + you do not sleep, little bear. 
** on the second page of the blog (right column - click on "view my complete profile", then down to "my blogs" 2 nd page ) up to the dreams!
@ enter the dreams in color KAYAK, girl manga! (Video)
@ discover LULLABY TO DREAM Anne Sylvestre! A sweet song for ALL KIDS ... know how to sing like the MOMS! 
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